Is There a Peak Age?

It seems that many people, when they are young, keep wanting to be older than they are. “I can’t wait until I’m sixteen” and can do X or Y or Z. Then, “I can’t wait until I’m eighteen” for some other rights. And finally, “I can’t wait until I’m twenty-one” and finally you’re allowed to be a full-fledged adult.

And then … what? The decline begins?

I remember being twenty-five and thinking one night that I’d passed the peak. That now it was a long, slow decline. It seemed silly, when I then thought about it logically, but in talking with many of my friends and relatives, they had the same sort of thought strike them. So much of our culture is about extolling and celebrating the milestones up until the age of twenty-one. And then we don’t have anything. The most we get is the “Big 5-0” of fifty which is more of a grim occasion for many people. Cakes are decorated with death icons.

Also, until someone reaches 21, they often lie about their age to seem older. But then once they pass 21, many people lie about their age to seem younger. They don’t want to admit how old they are as if they were ashamed or embarrassed of that fact. That they had made it that far in life.

Would a long distance runner be ashamed of the distances he had covered? He’d be proud of them! Why would we humans feel anything but pride for where we have gotten with ourselves?

Since that night of pondering, I feel I have come to peace with where I am in life. I am quite fine telling people my age. 49. It doesn’t feel “negative” in any way. It is what I am. It’s how far I’ve come. I’ve done a lot of cool things in my 49 years and look forward to a wide variety of opportunities going forward. My to-do list is miles and miles long. There are so many opportunities in our world.

Would I want to be eighteen again? Absolutely not! My brain wasn’t fully formed yet :). I made many questionable decisions. It’s just what I had to work with. I have learned and grown from then. I am now in a far better place.

Would I want to have an eighteen-year-old body? So I could be sought after by eighteen-year-old boys? That’s a pretty unpleasant thought for me, to have young eighteen-year-old boys eyeing me! I want to be healthy, yes. Able to do the things I want to do, yes. But look eighteen? I really don’t think so. I want to look happy and healthy. I wouldn’t want to look eight years old, either. I want to give an impression of who I am and where I am in life. I am quite fine with that.

What are your thoughts on aging and if there’s a peak age? Share them in the comments below!


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33 Is a Special Age Because …

We humans love to think in stages and segments. A human span at its maximum is just about one hundred years long (although for a lucky few it can be a bit longer). So a third of that is about 33. It almost seems logical that 33 is then a third of one’s life. A third of one’s time on Earth has been experienced – leaving two-thirds of that remaining.

Thirty-three. By thirty-three many of us have gotten settled into a routine. Gotten comfortable with ourselves. We’re out of the twenties where things could be a bit jumbled and confusing. We’ve been around for a while. We have a general sense of what works and what doesn’t work.

That’s great! Because now, armed with all that knowledge, you can go after the things you’re interested in!

When Kate Winslet was 33, an age that is already a challenge in the Hollywood world of quite-young women, she performed in two masterpieces – Revolutionary Road and The Reader. She got a Golden Globe award for each of them. She got the Academy Award. The BAFTA Award. She proved that 33 can be when a person hits their stride and is on top of their game.

Now is the time to go out and achieve your goals!


The Bonus Years
Here on this site we not only are inspired by those who came into their own at age thirty-three. We also keep in our memories those whose lives ended when they were only thirty-three. It reminds us that our days ahead are precious. They are a blessing. They are golden time that others would have fervently wished for.

John Belushi
I love the Blues Brothers. I’ve seen that film countless times. And John Belushi was just amazing in it. Well, of course, everyone was. But John was something special. He was one of the founding members of Saturday Night Live and brought a special brand of humor to it.

John (and many of his co-workers) were under incredibly stress with the show and turned to drugs to cope with it. Unfortunately, things got out of control, as they often do. He died of an overdose, and our world was deprived of his comedy.

Think if he had managed to turn things around. To reset his life and tackle new projects. We could have seen some amazing movies featuring him. He would have been grateful for just one more year to stretch his wings ever further.

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Are you currently 33? Do you have any special memories of when you were 33? Please share them below!


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29 Is a Special Age Because …

Ah, 29. Another cusp. In our modern time, the twenties are seen by many as an “adult childhood” period. A time of having fun. Going out drinking, dancing, and exploring life. Most people in this time period don’t have a house. If they have kids, the kids tend to be young. It’s a time of high adventure.

Some might worry that crossing the threshold into the thirties means a new set of society pressures. Now’s the time one is often told to settle down. To take work seriously. To build that foundation and legacy.

Society will always have its comments and ideas, but we as individuals can choose our own paths. It might be that you had more than your share of responsibilities in your twenties and now you’re able to control things a bit better. Or it could be that you had a blast having fun in your twenties and are now ready to see what a quieter life has to offer. Whatever you’ve come from, and wherever you’re going, the cusp birthdays are that time for reflection and contemplation.

Look at all you’ve accomplished over the past decade – large or small. The human brain doesn’t really finish maturing until it’s nearly thirty so undoubtedly there are some things you might have wanted to do differently. That’s ok! That’s what we all go through. The big thing is to now approach your thirties with fresh energy and motivation. To examine your goals and see how to work toward them. To appreciate all you have and see how to get where you want to go.

29 is a great age. Do you know Kenneth Branagh was 29 when he was nominated for best director for Henry V? Or that George Lucas was 29 when he was nominated for that same honor for American Graffiti?

The youngest winner ever for best actor was Adrien Brody in the Pianist. Just to show how age differences come in to play in Hollywood, the ten youngest winners on the female side are all under the age of 27.

Michelangelo created his amazing sculpture of David when he was 29.


The Bonus Years
Here on this site we not only are inspired by those who came into their own at age twenty-nine. We also keep in our memories those whose lives ended when they were only twenty-nine. It reminds us that our days ahead are precious. They are a blessing. They are golden time that others would have fervently wished for.

Ronnie Van Zant
Ronnie Van Zant was a founding member of the country rock band Lynyrd Skynyrd. Yes, the ones of the famous “Free Bird”. He started a band in high school in 1964 and worked at it solidly for a good ten years. Then they found great success with their first album which had “Free Bird” on it along with “Gimme Three Steps” and a number of other classics.

He and several of his bandmates were flying in a Convair CV-240 mid-sized plane when it ran into trouble. It tried to safely land but crashed. He died on impact.

Imagine the wealth of songs we could have loved from him, if he had been given more time on our Earth. Every one of us has a difference to make, and each new day provides that opportunity.

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Are you currently 29? Do you have any special memories of when you were 29? Please share them below!


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My book goes step by step through how to meditate and how to overcome challenges.

Best of all, it’s free!

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16 Is a Special Age Because…

If there’s any age which perhaps doesn’t need a special page to explain why it’s special, sixteen years old is probably it. There are songs about being sweet sixteen. There are movies about turning sixteen. Story after story features a person turning sixteen and realizing that they have achieved a huge milestone.

There’s just something about sixteen.

For many teenagers, sixteen is when they are finally able to drive. They’re finally able to get some freedom. To take a bit more control over their lives. They’re looking forward to when they graduate from high school. To when they launch out to pursue their dreams. Maybe to go to college. Or to embark on a career. Maybe to become serious with a special someone.

Sixteen is considered by many cultures to be the cusp of adulthood. When childhood is left behind and the world is at your feet.

Many famous actors got their launch when they starred in something at age sixteen. Cameron Diaz first became a fashion model at sixteen. Michael Caine knew he wanted to be an actor and got his first job in a film company studio at age sixteen.

In 1968, Jack Wild in Oliver!, playing the Artful Dodger, was nominated for Best Supporting Actor. Not bad for a sixteen year old going up against experienced adults!

Sarah Hinton finished her first novel, The Outsiders, when she was sixteen. It went on to become a best-seller and was adapted into a movie. She gave an authentic voice to her teenage characters.


The Bonus Years
Here on this site we not only are inspired by those who launched themselves out at age sixteen. We also keep in our memories those whose lives ended when they were only sixteen. It reminds us that our days ahead are precious. They are a blessing. They are golden time that others would have fervently wished for.

Lady Jane Grey
Lady Jane Grey was born in 1537 to a royal household. Her grandmother had once been Queen of France. She was incredibly well educated, learning to speak five languages, and she loved to read. The privileged live had its down sides – she was mercilessly harassed about acting the exact proper way at every turn. By the time she was sixteen, her father had decided to marry her off to Lord Guildford Dudley. Unlike many marriages of the time, where a young girl was forced to partner with a man nearly her grandfather’s age, Lord Guildford was only two years older than her and also well educated. You would have thought they’d have a chance to be happy.

But when Edward IV was dying, and he himself was only 15, he wanted to see Lady Jane Grey become queen after him. She didn’t want to be queen. He even bypassed many other possible options to choose her. As you might imagine, this enraged everyone who was bypassed. After only nine days of being queen, she and her young husband were grabbed, locked up, and executed.

Think of how much she would have given to have been spirited away with her husband and allowed to live their lives in peace. To count the blessings of each new day.

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Are you currently 16? Do you have any special memories of when you were 16? Please share them below!


Five Minute Meditation:
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Looking to become more content with where you are in life and what you have to look forward to? I highly recommend meditation. Even just five minutes a day can make an enormous difference in your serenity, energy levels, and patience.

My book goes step by step through how to meditate and how to overcome challenges.

Best of all, it’s free!

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Why Do Some People Fear Getting Older

Each day we each get one day older. It’s the way the universe works. The sun rises in the east and sets in the west. The moon cycles through its phases. And yet there are some people who get upset by this. Some people who voice their unhappiness that nature is doing what it has always done.

That baffles me.

Would we think to complain that the tides come in and out? Yes, we might be frustrated with our local town who never got around to building a proper sea wall, so that when a storm hits it washes away the playground. And we even might get annoyed at oil corporations who cause Earth-wide changes which are beyond any single person’s power to mitigate. But the tides? Coming in and out? We accept that as the way our world works. The moon with its silvery orb gently tugs against the water, and the water, like a lover seeking just a brush of the fingers, reaches out.

And so the universe wheels.

When people are young, they often crave with all their heart for time to speed up. They wish for the clock to tick more quickly so they can get more control over their lives. So they can watch what they want and stay up all night and do the things they’re told not to do. So when does the mindset change? When we graduate from high school? I’m not sure most of us would want to stay trapped in college or the just-out-of-high-school years forever. They might have been fun and free from a lot of responsibility, but they had their own share of issues. Our minds were not fully formed yet. Studies show that doesn’t happen until we are 25 or 30. We didn’t always have the wisdom to deal with challenges in the best possible way.

I think people often have a selective memory when they look back. They remember the fun of going on adventures or having an in-shape body or falling in love. But they don’t remember all the challenges that came with it.

I will caveat that some people over time do develop serious medical issues that cause great pain. If someone is sixty and they are in agony all day long from a back problem, they might wish they were pain-free again. That isn’t about getting younger, though. It’s about having a healthier body. There are people who are sixteen who desperately wish they had a healthier body, as they struggle with cancer. And there are people who are ninety who do yoga daily and enjoy life with enthusiasm.

Do we wish we had more time than the 122 maximum years we are given on the Earth? To me that falls into the category of wishing the sun would freeze in the sky. If it actually did, chaos would ensue. It’s a good thing humans have finite lifespans. We need to treasure each day we get.

My suggestion is to look at all the blessings you have. Realize just how lucky you are to be where you are. Then map out a goal list, include ways to build a healthy body on that, and get started! Every new day can be one you embrace with gratitude and joy.

Namaste.

What are your thoughts? Please add your comments below!


Five Minute Meditation:
Mindfulness, Stress Relief, and Focus
for Absolute Beginners

Looking to become more content with where you are in life and what you have to look forward to? I highly recommend meditation. Even just five minutes a day can make an enormous difference in your serenity, energy levels, and patience.

My book goes step by step through how to meditate and how to overcome challenges.

Best of all, it’s free!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on it. Feel free to comment below about my book, this site, or anything at all!

49 Is a Special Age Because …

If there’s any age that people watch as it approaches, it’s the big 5-0. 49 is the last stop before that milestone. 49 is definitely a point where many people sit back and evaluate what they’ve done with the past nearly fifty years of their life. It is almost like one is nearing the half-way point in life, if one assumes they are going to be blessed with solid health going forward.

I am 49 years old as I am writing this. I am quite content being 49. I don’t feel old nor young. I simply feel like me. I am happy with the pathways in life which have led me to this point. I am happy with the things I do and the control I have over my own destiny. I have made many mistakes along the way, as all humans have. Hopefully I have learned from those and am doing better as I go forward.

When Shirley MacLaine was 49, she won the Best Actress award for Terms of Endearment. And this in a world where so many roles go to younger women. She proved that as a person moves into their prime, they have the strength and wisdom to show their very best. Similarly, Susan Sarandon won at 49 for Dead Man Walking.


The Bonus Years
Here on this site we not only are inspired by those who came into their own at age forty-nine. We also keep in our memories those whose lives ended when they were only forty-nine. It reminds us that our days ahead are precious. They are a blessing. They are golden time that others would have fervently wished for.

Douglas Adams
I adore the books written by Douglas Adams. He has such an amazingly quirky sense of humor combined with great attention to detail. He’s a true joy to read. He was 26 when The Hitchiker’s Guide to the Galaxy was broadcast as a radio series. At age 35 he published Dirk Gently’s Holistic Detective Agency, another one of my favorites.

And then at age 49 he was dead. He died of a heart attack after a workout. He had a seven year old daughter. Undoubtedly he was looking forward to spending many years with her, to watching her graduate, to walking her down the aisle. Maybe he would have written fantastic new books for her to read. He was working out and trying to take care of himself.

I imagine Douglas Adams would have given anything to survive that heart attack and go on with life. To experience the “second half” of his life. Those of us who have that blessing should treasure each day.

Are you currently 49? Do you have any special memories of when you were 49? Please share them below!


Five Minute Meditation:
Mindfulness, Stress Relief, and Focus
for Absolute Beginners

Looking to become more content with where you are in life and what you have to look forward to? I highly recommend meditation. Even just five minutes a day can make an enormous difference in your serenity, energy levels, and patience.

My book goes step by step through how to meditate and how to overcome challenges.

Best of all, it’s free!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on it. Feel free to comment below about my book, this site, or anything at all!

Welcome

Every one of us is unique. We know that scientifically – even identical twins do not have the exact same DNA, as their DNA mutates and changes as it splits and splits again. Heck, scientists now feel that each human being is actually a “mosaic” – a collection of cells which sometimes have quite striking differences from a neighbor cell’s DNA. So not only are we each different from each other, but even our own components are different on that most basic level.

In can be easy to have our modern world convince us that we are merely faceless members of a group. We are a “Millennial”. We are an “out of work person”. The labels define us. We begin to think of them as having meaning.

This societal pressure can certainly happen when it comes to our age. Our community can drum into us that it’s exciting to be sixteen. That celebrations commence as we reach twenty-one. But what are the thoughts around turning fifty? Often they come with dark humor.

I strongly believe we need to recapture the joy in treasuring each day, whatever our age. We have so many milestones up until twenty-one – and then it seems as if they get lost.

We should be looking forward to what the world offers, no matter what our age. To be content with who we are, where we are, and the miles we have traveled to get there. To celebrate. To congratulate.

My name is Lisa Shea.

I am forty-nine years old.

Welcome to WinePhilosophy!

What are your thoughts on aging? Please add your comments below!


Five Minute Meditation:
Mindfulness, Stress Relief, and Focus
for Absolute Beginners

Looking to become more content with where you are in life and what you have to look forward to? I highly recommend meditation. Even just five minutes a day can make an enormous difference in your serenity, energy levels, and patience.

My book goes step by step through how to meditate and how to overcome challenges.

Best of all, it’s free!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on it. Feel free to comment below about my book, this site, or anything at all!

Age 0 to 9 Are Great Years Because …

If most older people had to choose the best decade of their life, few would choose the decade of birth through age 9. That primarily is because we often can barely remember what happened way back then. But if we were blessed with loving parents and a supportive community, these years are simply amazing.

Think of all the wonders we get to experience for the very first time. Our very first taste of ice cream. Of chocolate. A trip to a beach. If we’re somewhere cold, our first snow! The first time we hear a certain song. The first time we saw that movie that blew us away. The first time we read a certain book.

There’s a lot of power in those firsts. In the awakening of a soul to something unknown and new.

Sure, there are challenges built into this decade. A child in this age range often has very little control over what they are fed. Where they can go. How they are treated by those around them. For some unfortunate children, this time period can be rough and full of hard memories.

Still, there is so much good in there if we look for it. The moments of unadulterated joy. The ways in which our minds were expanded.

It is the responsibility of every adult around a child in this age range to support them. Encourage them. See where their creativity wants to take them and embrace that. So what if she wants to paint the sky purple. So what if he wants to try on a tutu. Let them try and explore and learn and see what the world offers.

By nurturing a mind which resounds with wonder, we create a person who can thrill with life with every passing day. Who is ready for whatever challenges the universe has to offer.


Five Minute Meditation:
Mindfulness, Stress Relief, and Focus
for Absolute Beginners

Looking to become more content with where you are in life and what you have to look forward to? I highly recommend meditation. Even just five minutes a day can make an enormous difference in your serenity, energy levels, and patience.

My book goes step by step through how to meditate and how to overcome challenges.

Best of all, it’s free!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on it. Feel free to comment below about my book, this site, or anything at all!